Beliefs shape our experiences
Someone who is confident will respond very differently to criticism than someone lacking in self-esteem.
We all unconsciously gather these beliefs throughout our lives, particularly in childhood and store them in our subconscious. There, they form the foundation for our emotional well-being.
Our children are bombarded with messages about themselves on the tv, social media or by their friends. Even the best parents will unwittingly send negative messages to their children from time to time. Simply spending too long on your phone may be interpreted as “I’m not important” or saying “hurry up, I need to get to work” is heard as “there’s never enough time for me”.
So if we want our kids to have a happy life, to be confident and resilient, and to make friends easily then we need to do our best to ensure that their beliefs and perceptions are coherent with those attitudes.
As a parent – it can be hard to know where to begin or what to say to combat those negative messages that you might not even know your child is receiving.
Adults facing issues in their lives, may spend time with a counsellor or therapist trying to establish and then change these core beliefs, often with limited success.